If there really is a manual or dictionary about love, will it even make a difference?
Watching Strangers Again in YouTube made me read David Levithan’s The Lover’s Dictionary. The emotion the movie clip left me made me want to look for a book that will give me the same emotion I felt with the film.
The Lover’s Dictionary by David Levithan
Kindle Edition, Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 211 pages
Read in December, 2011
I don’t want to think the couples from Strangers Again and The Lover’s Dictionary ended up together. I don’t want to be pessimistic, I’m just trying to be practical and realistic. Judging from the way their relationship went through, I don’t think staying together will make it work. That’s what my brain wants to think. But if I go with what my heart says, I want to believe that both couples gave their love a second chance. As they say love is lovelier the second time around.
On second thought, I think the couple from Strangers Again never had a second chance. They just went downhill and broke up. Do you know that they have Stages of a Relationship? I think the couple from The Lover’s Dictionary also went through this. They just had different issues. And it made me look at love and giving second chances a different meaning.
Stages of a Relationship from Strangers Again
Stage 1: The Meeting
Stage 2: The Chase
Stage 3: Honeymoon
Stage 4: Comfortable
Stage 5: Tolerance
Stage 6: Downhill
Stage 7: Break Up
Here are some entries/words I liked from the novel:
There has to be a moment at the beginning when you wonder whether you’re in love with the person or in love with the feeling of love itself.
Did I ever felt this way? Probably, I did. You did. Everyone did. The only question is, did you get pass it? But you know, I still love love. I just love the person more.
Does every “I love you” deserve an “I love you too”? Does every kiss deserve a kiss back? Does every night deserve to be spent on a lover? If the answer to any of these is “No,” what do we do?
Sigh. My thoughts exactly.
I guess I don’t believe in small break. I feel a break is a break. And if it starts small, it only gets wider. So I wanted you to stay, even though nothing could stay the same.
I don’t believe in cool off.
He needs space? What is he? An astronaut?
I don’t give second chances. But after reading this, I gave it a second thought. If it happens to me will I consider it? I honestly do not know. I’m sure of one thing though, I’d make sure I won’t lose myself in the process.