The Lover’s Dictionary


If there really is a manual or dictionary about love, will it even make a difference?

Watching Strangers Again in YouTube made me read David Levithan’s The Lover’s Dictionary. The emotion the movie clip left me made me want to look for a book that will give me the same emotion I felt with the film.

Type HerThe Lover’s Dictionary by David Levithan

Kindle Edition, Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 211 pages
Adult Contemporary

Read in December, 2011

A modern love story told through a series of dictionary-style entries is a sequence of intimate windows into the large and small events that shape the course of a romantic relationship.


I don’t want to think the couples from Strangers Again and The Lover’s Dictionary ended up together. I don’t want to be pessimistic, I’m just trying to be practical and realistic. Judging from the way their relationship went through, I don’t think staying together will make it work. That’s what my brain wants to think. But if I go with what my heart says, I want to believe that both couples gave their love a second chance. As they say love is lovelier the second time around.

On second thought, I think the couple from Strangers Again never had a second chance. They just went downhill and broke up. Do you know that they have Stages of a Relationship? I think the couple from The Lover’s Dictionary also went through this. They just had different issues. And it made me look at love and giving second chances a different meaning.

Stages of a Relationship from Strangers Again
Stage 1: The Meeting
Stage 2: The Chase
Stage 3: Honeymoon
Stage 4: Comfortable
Stage 5: Tolerance
Stage 6: Downhill
Stage 7: Break Up

Here are some entries/words I liked from the novel:

basis, n.
There has to be a moment at the beginning when you wonder whether you’re in love with the person or in love with the feeling of love itself.

Did I ever felt this way? Probably, I did. You did. Everyone did. The only question is, did you get pass it? But you know, I still love love. I just love the person more.

fraught, v.
Does every “I love you” deserve an “I love you too”? Does every kiss deserve a kiss back? Does every night deserve to be spent on a lover? If the answer to any of these is “No,” what do we do?

Sigh. My thoughts exactly.

hiatus, n.
I guess I don’t believe in small break. I feel a break is a break. And if it starts small, it only gets wider. So I wanted you to stay, even though nothing could stay the same.

I don’t believe in cool off.
He needs space? What is he? An astronaut?

I don’t give second chances. But after reading this, I gave it a second thought. If it happens to me will I consider it? I honestly do not know. I’m sure of one thing though, I’d make sure I won’t lose myself in the process.

Love? Yeah.

Amazing: I’m mesmerized.

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7 thoughts on “The Lover’s Dictionary

  1. Angus Miranda says:

    My favorite entry in the book is community. I wrote it down somewhere because I only borrowed this from Tina.

    So this is a proof that I don’t only read books from the pre 1900’s era, hahaha. 😀

  2. KwesiFriends says:

    Sheryl borrowed this book from Tina and I read few pages of the book in random. It seems that my tongue did not like the whole idea of making this novel like a dictionary or I might define words like in the book after reading it! Niyahaha. Gonna borrow that too, even though the book never gives me the urge to read it.

    • Shana says:

      You won’t appreciate it if you’ll read it in random. You have to start from letter A-Z. With your reading pace, you can finish this in 3 hours (or less).

      You’ll probably create your own dictionary of Kalokohan after reading this. Hahaha.

      Title: The Kalokohan’s Dictionary
      Author: Kwesi The Great PHR Guru


      • KwesiFriends says:

        Thanks for the suggestion and I might create one soon! Who cares, maybe it will become one of the bestselling books here in the Philippines. I’m dreaming and I’m always do that. Haha.

        How about this, A is for Alona. Noun. No further comment! Niyahaha.

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